From: Matt O'Connell
Are you a man facing a divorce? If so, I can help.
I've interviewed many divorced men...both winners and losers. I especially listened to the successful men.
Divorce can either give you a new lease on life or it can leave you in financial ruin for years
How you divorce will have a major impact on the rest of your life.
Why is it that so many men struggle after a divorce while other men prosper...even thrive? Fortunately, success leaves clues.
I quickly discovered that "the more money you spend on your divorce, the worse your settlement will be." As strange as it sounds, it's true.
The men that got the best divorce results generally spent only a few hundred dollars. The men that spent thousands usually got taken to the cleaners by their ex-wives and the attorneys.
Several years ago, I went through my own painful divorce. I had to deal with issues like child custody, division of assets, and child support. I had one of the most complex divorces in state history.
I didn't have just a lawyer, I had a "legal team". I've read just about every book out there on divorce and child custody.
Most of these books are too general or full of advice that either isn't true, is irrelevant, or simply doesn't work.
I was forced to do my own research. As a result, I've become an expert on the topic of divorce.
Many men believe that winning in court is how you win your divorce. Nothing could be further from the truth.
The facts clearly show that men get the best deals when they bypass the entire legal system.
We've all been brainwashed into thinking that when we get divorced, we need to hire a lawyer and sue somebody. Let me show you a much better way!
Throwing money at your divorce simply doesn't work. In fact, it'll more than likely backfire on you.
You just want the problem fixed as quickly and painlessly as possible.
When you look into divorce law and child custody - these are the facts:
Over 85% percent of divorces are filed by women.Women know the laws favor them in a divorce.
Most women file for divorce simply because they're unsatisfied (not because of infidelity or abuse). Most suffer from a case of "the grass is greener on the other side" complex.
Do you think genders matters? If a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment. If a woman talks dirty to a man, it's $2.95 per minute. Believe me...Gender matters! Don't expect to be treated fairly in a divorce.
It's a documented fact divorce is one of the most stressful things a person can experience (of course I don't have to tell you that). Most of the stress is caused by all the uncertainty about the future. Understanding the intricacies of divorce and custody will end the uncertainty and relieve the stress.
Too many men walk away from their wife and their assets too. The goal here is to divorce your wife, not your money, house, or kids!
It's a documented fact the kids do better after a divorce when the father has sole or joint custody. Children suffer when restricted to limited contact with their father.
It's a fact that less than 2% of custody disputes ever make it to trial. The system is specifically designed to grind fathers down before the case can be heard by a judge.
65% of clients report dissatisfaction with their divorce attorney (more than any other type of attorney). Odds are, you'll be one of them if you're not careful. Don't rely solely on your attorney to get you the best deal.
In many cases, the mother pushes the father away from the children by filing false abuse claims or interfering with visitation. This is known as "parent alienation syndrome". The courts are apathetic to this and often do little to stop it.
It's been said that marriage is nothing more than an insurance policy for the woman. If the marriage fails, she'll often resort to using alimony to "cash in".
Most men don't mind supporting their wife during a marriage, but once the marriage is over, having to support an ex-wife is an outrage. In many cases, she was a lousy wife and/or a bad mother.
Now she wants out of the marriage only because she suffering from a case of "the grass is greener on the other side" and suddenly you owe her.
What a crock! Sadly, this happens all too often.
As a man, you have four areas of financial exposure:
Current Assets: Your home, cars, bank accounts and possessions
Future Income: She can ask for a percentage of your income for months, years, or even life.
Retirement funds:Will you be on the hook to split your pension plan or 401K plan with her when you retire? If you're not careful, you could be ordered to split your retirement with her.
Debts:In some cases, you may escape alimony only to be stuck with a pile of debt while she walks away owing nothing. This is almost as bad as owing her thousands.
Child support is set by strict state state guidelines; alimony is not. Alimony is left up to the discretion of the judge. The judge will impose whatever they feel is "fair."
This means men in the exact same situation, can pay significantly different amounts of alimony. So what separates the men that get good alimony deals from the men that get screwed? More often than not, it's your strategy, not your income or finances that determine if you owe alimony.
Your strategy and approach determines how much (if any) alimony you pay - more so than your financial situation or hers.
There are things you can do about alimony.Taking a common sense approach and applying some simple yet effective strategies is your best defense against alimony.
If you think that hiring an expensive attorney is a winning strategy, think again. That's what Paul McCartney did and he had to pay millions in alimony. Why do you think your outcome will be any different? Hiring a lawyer or going before a judge and hoping for the best is always a losing strategy.
Children growing up in fatherless homes are:
5 times more likely to commit suicide.
32 times more likely to run away.
20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders.
14 times more likely to commit rape.
9 times more likely to drop out of high school.
10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances.
9 times more likely to end up in a state-operated institution.
20 times more likely to end up in prison.
It's imperative that you remain involved in your children's lives...even if your ex-wife is trying to push you out.
Many fathers are paying more child support than the law requires. Sadly, many of them don't even know it and struggle financially as a result.
Many men overpay child support because they don't know what they should pay.Finding out what you should be paying is simple once you know how.You don't need a lawyer or a CPA.
How do you know your ex-wife isn't spending your child support money on Botox, a new wardrobe, her car payment, and dinners out with her new boyfriend?Is all that money really going to the children?I doubt it.
Stop Subsidizing Her Lifestyle!
Hot Tip: Insist that a portion of your child support be set aside for the children's education. If you're paying $800 per month in child support, insist that $150 of that be deposited directly into an education account for the kids each month. Suggest that your ex-wife match your $150 with $150 of her own each month.
This will show you to be a caring father and if she objects, it'll expose her as a greedy woman and an uncaring mother. At least you'll know a good portion of your child support payments are benefiting the kids and not her.
One of the biggest mistake men make is letting their lawyer run the show. Lawyers are in business to make money for themselves, not help you reach a fair settlement or get custody of your kids.
Divorce lawyers handle 100's of cases per year. They don't care about you personally. They don't care whether you win or lose because they get paid either way.
To those in the billion dollar divorce industry, you're just another clueless rookie sitting down at their poker table...we all know what happens to clueless rookies.
Many lawyers want to avoid court and negotiate...the problem is they want those negotiations to drag on forever.
Divorce attorneys are experts at separating you from your money.
Remember: All those lawyer jokes exist for good reason
Paid by the hour
Work on hundreds of cars (cases) per year
Don't care about you or your car (case). They're in business to make money, not help you
There are good ones and bad ones
The more knowledgeable you are, the harder is is for them to sell you parts or services you don't need
Would you spend thousands on your car without understanding everything your auto mechanic was doing? Of course not. You'd question everything. Why should your divorce be any different?
The problem is that most men don't understand divorce laws well enough to question their attorney. Why would you?
How many divorces have you been through? Most men don't take the time to educate themselves on divorce laws and custody. They simply rely on their attorney.
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